That’s right, I said it. Start snitchin’! (No, not necessarily on the dope boys and trap stars—that’s another blog topic) but on the multitude of married men who attempt to make us their mistresses. Since February I’ve been hit on by 6 married men—a comedian, 2 athletes, a doctor, a "community icon" and a lawyer. That doesn’t even take into account the dozens that probably were married but weren’t wearing their rings or chose not to tell me.
When I say hit on, I don’t mean casual and sometimes harmless flirting. I mean “send me X rated pictures come to my room after the party let me fly you to Cabo” kind of hit on. To put it simply, no, I’m not impressed, I don’t take it as a compliment and I’m not flattered. Try frustrated, disgusted, and offended.
We have to stop taking these come-ons as compliments. They are not. What this married man is really saying is “I think so little of you that I am going to attempt to fit you in the smallest and lowest part of my life—a dark and secret place that should never be discussed or publicized.” While he goes home to his wife for love and nurturing, he meets you at a motel or in the back of his truck solely to fulfill his lustful and physical desires. Who died and made him king granting your body as his living sacrifice? I will have no parts of it. I don’t know about you, but I deserve a man who wants me and only me. I deserve to be taken out in the light and the dark. I deserve to hear I love you in the day and the night. I refuse to be his secret—his play toy.
So long as married men have the mentality that what one woman won’t do another one will, they will always stray. Stand up for your married sister. You’ll want the same courtesy one day. If you don’t know whether he’s married, then ask. If you don’t believe his answer, then make your way down to the Fulton County Courthouse and ask somebody. If you do know he’s married, then don’t only tell him no, but tell him you’re offended that he thinks so little of you. Get it out of your system that he’s so in love with you that he’ll leave his wife and family. Really, he’s just not that into you. If he was, you’d be his wife—not his mistress. Oh, has he fed you the line that he’s gonna leave, he just wants to wait until the kids are older? Riiiiiiight. Save your self a lot of headache and heartache and tell his lyin’ a** to wait and call you when they are older.
If you are really down for the cause you’ll tell the Mrs. what a low down dirty shame she’s married to. What she does with the info is on her. At least you’ve done your part.
Snitch now my ladies, or forever have no peace.
When I say hit on, I don’t mean casual and sometimes harmless flirting. I mean “send me X rated pictures come to my room after the party let me fly you to Cabo” kind of hit on. To put it simply, no, I’m not impressed, I don’t take it as a compliment and I’m not flattered. Try frustrated, disgusted, and offended.
We have to stop taking these come-ons as compliments. They are not. What this married man is really saying is “I think so little of you that I am going to attempt to fit you in the smallest and lowest part of my life—a dark and secret place that should never be discussed or publicized.” While he goes home to his wife for love and nurturing, he meets you at a motel or in the back of his truck solely to fulfill his lustful and physical desires. Who died and made him king granting your body as his living sacrifice? I will have no parts of it. I don’t know about you, but I deserve a man who wants me and only me. I deserve to be taken out in the light and the dark. I deserve to hear I love you in the day and the night. I refuse to be his secret—his play toy.
So long as married men have the mentality that what one woman won’t do another one will, they will always stray. Stand up for your married sister. You’ll want the same courtesy one day. If you don’t know whether he’s married, then ask. If you don’t believe his answer, then make your way down to the Fulton County Courthouse and ask somebody. If you do know he’s married, then don’t only tell him no, but tell him you’re offended that he thinks so little of you. Get it out of your system that he’s so in love with you that he’ll leave his wife and family. Really, he’s just not that into you. If he was, you’d be his wife—not his mistress. Oh, has he fed you the line that he’s gonna leave, he just wants to wait until the kids are older? Riiiiiiight. Save your self a lot of headache and heartache and tell his lyin’ a** to wait and call you when they are older.
If you are really down for the cause you’ll tell the Mrs. what a low down dirty shame she’s married to. What she does with the info is on her. At least you’ve done your part.
Snitch now my ladies, or forever have no peace.
1 comment:
I am in full agreement. I couldn't have said it better myself. Our struggle as women has everything to do with solidarity. A man once told me that if all sisters got together and refused to have sex with brothers until our communities were repaired, the communities would be like brand new overnight! Brothers would be out there working hard to fix things...but as you stated, "if I won't, my sister will." Herein lies our problem.
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