Notable and Quotable

"I don't fear insects or spiders. At great heights, I jump off, smiling. In the face of death I wink. But, when I look into your eyes, I'm in fear of how much I love you."
-Source Unknown

Lesson Learned: Bump Pillow Talk...

...Its about the pillow fight!

Ever had one of those days when you and your love are bickering over everything! Where to eat, what to watch, the weekend's plans, etc, etc. Those times happen and don't necessarily amount to relationship-threatening arguments. Its a result of spending time together. A great solution is the pillow fight. While in no way do I condone domestic violence, I do condone picking up the bed pillows and embracing some mortal combat. Be gentle. But its a great stress/aggression relief. Then you can kiss, make up and get to the pillow talk. Besides, at the heart of all that aggression...is love.

Off My Chest: White Lies

To lie to me is to disrespect me. I do not appreciate it and will not tolerate it. Why lie to me over something that means absolutely nothing? Had you told the truth, there would have been no argument--maybe even no conversation about it. But because you are too scared to face and to speak the truth, you lie. And how do I know that you lie? Well although Atlanta has over 4 million residents, its really a small place. I know people in your circle that you wouldn't dream that I know. I know where you're headed often times before you even do. As you form your lips to speak a lie, my mind is already wrapped around the truth. Not only do I know the truth but I know that about the truth you'll lie. White lies piss me off to no end because if you have the audacity to lie to me about little things, then I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that when big things get poppin' you'll surely lie to cover your a**

With that being said, you've got about 3 more lies before your whites make me fade to black...
...and that's the truth!

Sorry, I just had to get that off my chest.

ATL Celebrilove: Footballer's Wives

'Tis football season again. In honor of the pigskin I decided to highlight two of our notable Falcon's and their wives. If you're looking for Warrick's, well he's not married. If you're looking for Vick's, well not only is he not married, but he really is no longer a Falcon.

Alge Crumpler and his beautiful family (both UNC grads)...













And who knew that DeAngelo Hall was married? She's actually a working woman herself. I hear she's a realtor. Introducing...Jada Hall.

Peachy Date Ideas: The Mile High Club, well sorta...

Forget going to the movies after dinner. Instead, try a helicopter tour of Atlanta. I did a few months ago and it was quite the experience. Surprisingly it wasn't terribly expensive. Very romantic and oh so exciting! A true upgrade. Try the following sites:

http://www.airatlantahelicopters.com/
http://www.atlantaheli.com/
http://www.alphahelicopter.com/

Lesson Learned: Wedding Crashers

Is it just me, or have you noticed that everyone and their momma is getting married these days? Engagement rings are being thrown around like play toys. Every Saturday from the beginning of August until the end of October is clouded with another friend's wedding. I mean I'm ecstatic for the happy couples, but I'll be honest, occasionally the "why isn't it me" mentality takes over. Like many of you I've been planning my wedding since I was 8 1/2 years old. When will my dreams become a freakin' reality? In all of the selfishness, I must remind myself (and you too) that thou shalt not hate. In fact, remember these words to get you through those times when you're feeling green with envy:

To everything there is a season,a time for every purpose under the sun.A time to be born and a time to die;a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted;a time to kill and a time to heal ...a time to weep and a time to laugh;a time to mourn and a time to dance ...a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing;a time to lose and a time to seek;a time to rend and a time to sew;a time to keep silent and a time to speak;a time to love and a time to hate;a time for war and a time for peace.
ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Don't worry my dears....our time will come. Until then hit up those registries, rehearsals, and receptions with a smile on your face and pure joy in your heart for the brides and grooms to be.

Cheers!

Love Don't Live Here Anymore: Juanita Bynum Update

Photo courtesy of AJC.

So, the alleged wife beater, Bishop Thomas Weeks is now out on bond after attacking his estranged wife, Juanita Bynum in a hotel parking lot on Wednesday. He surrendered to authorities and spent about 6 hours in jail. He was ordered to have no contact with Bynum or her sister. AJC is reporting that Weeks released the following statements through his lawyers:

"He is extremely sad over the events that have taken place," said Edward Garland, one of the two attorneys representing Weeks. "I think there is hope on his part that the relationship can get past these difficult moments.
"He has never had any accusation of any sort like this from her or anyone esle," said Garland. "There are a lot of circumstances surrounding these events that will be explained at a later time. He is turning it over to the court system at this point.''
Weeks, Garland said, will meet with "a variety of pastors over which he presides, and with his father, who is a minister, and he's going to make a prayerful decision as to how he proceeds. He's dedicated his whole life to the ministry, and we're very hopeful that he will be able to continue to lead the ministry."

Bynum is attempting to make clear through her publicist that the two were not fighting, she was assaulted.

Off My Chest/Lesson Learned: On Your Mark, Get Set, Go...

What they say is true. Maybe sad, but nonetheless true. I'm sorry, but nice guys really do finish last. I attribute your place in line to the "it" "confidence" and "chase" factors.

The "It" Factor
To put it simply, the "nice guys" that I've met and/or tried to date just lack "it". What is "it"? Well, "it" really can't be described. It's a look, a feeling, a state of mind. I'm an outgoing, energetic and well-rounded person. Any man I date must be the same. Of course there is some level of stereotype included in what I'm about to say but nice guys just normally aren't that well-rounded or outgoing. Our interests just aren't aligned. For instance, it's great that you are a lawyer or doctor or computer specialist. Congrats on your achievements. But is there more to you than that? Must every dinner conversation be about politics, the latest medical breakthrough, or your last vacation to tour the Mayan ruins. I'm sorry, but sometimes (actually often times) I'd rather talk about who's sleeping with who in the celebrity world, who's going to win Sunday night's Making the Band, and whether Spencer really does have Heidi brainwashed on The Hills. My dream vacation may be to the Mayan Riveria as well, but while your off looking at rocks I'll be in the poolside cabana sippin' mojitos and listening to rap music on my ipod. Call me intellectually-challenged if you'd like, but I do that from 9-5. I reserve my nights and weekends for kicking off my shoes, taking off my "white collar" and having a good ol' time. I can network my way through a corporate crowd but can also kick it off Bankhead if I had to. I've read Les Miserables, but enjoy trashy romance novels. Why do you think they call me Ms. Three Sixty. I'm just so well-rounded, and you nice guys are usually one eighty.

The "Confidence" Factor
When a "nice guy" meets a girl like me he knows he's got a handful. Experience has taught me that he just can't hang. He can't handle my dinner parties with Grand Hustle, my out of the country trips with my girls, my recruiting of million dollar athletes. He's not secure enough to think that I'm actually feelin' him. This results in him being clingy…calling way too much and accusing me of unfaithful behavior. No one wants to be checked on and questioned all the time but because of the nice guy's insecurity that’s exactly what happens and you'll make me think I should've cheated.

The "Chase" Factor
Face it, we all love a chase. Yes, I do complain about why my man hasn't called me this hour or why he must go to the club tonight, but at least that stuff keeps me on my toes (as long as it doesn’t get out of hand of course). Predictability is good with my puppy, but not with my man. I enjoy a challenge and need a man who is confident enough to make me wonder and has enough "it" to make me put up a little chase (Lord knows I'm gonna do the same for him). Nice guys tend to make it too easy. They answer every time I call and will drop anything they are doing whenever I need it. Thanks, but too much, is too much. Have a backbone. Be the man in the relationship. Don't let my Citizen jeans be the only pants that are getting' worn in the relationship. For instance, I have this one "nice guy" that I could call at 4am to cry about how another man did me and he'd drive right on down to midtown from NORCROSS at the drop of a dime. Believe me, he's done it. He quickly got placed in the so forbidden "friend zone".


With that being said, I'd like to point out that while nice guys finish last, they still do finish! All hope is not lost for these brothers. You see there comes a time in every woman's life when she's been dogged out one too many times. When her biological clock starts ticking and she begins to re-prioritize. She's grown too tired for the chase and actually welcomes his "always there" behavior. That's when the "bad guys" get sent to voicemail and she clings to her "nice guy" for the rest of eternity. For some of us that happens at 25, for others its 40…but whenever it happens just hope you haven't pissed your nice guy off so badly that he's a good guy gone bad.

Some of us are lucky enough to have neither a nice guy nor a bad guy but instead what I like to call "THE SWIRL". You see he's the perfect blend of bad guy chase and confidence but good guy dependability and accessibility. He comes in first in my book.

No matter which type of guy you are, it is a race to the death. But remember, the race is not always given to the swift, but to the one who endureth to the end. So endureth nice guys, endureth!

Notable and Quotable

"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."
- Robert Frost

Upcoming Events

As an update to the Dave Chapelle events going on around town this weekend...Word on the street is he knew absolutely nothing about the party at Compound this Saturday hosted by he and Keyshia Cole. In fact he said, he'd likely be with his kids and not there. So if you were going for KeyKey--great. If you were going for the Dave---not so much.

He may also be adding another show for Sunday or Monday night. Tickets will likely go on sale Saturday am. Stay tuned to V-103 for more info.