Lesson Learned: From sexy splack to super serious

I'd like to pose a question to the masses. Can you move from just having no strings attached sex with someone to having a true and respectable friendship? Can a jump off turn into a client, business partner, confidant, and friend?

Part of me thinks no. That once you've given yourself to a person sexually without demanding any more in return that at least for a woman, the man will never truly respect you and place you on the pedestal on which you should be. He'll always see you as his "splack" despite your intelligence, drive, and capacity for true friendship.

On the other hand, we are all adults. People come into our lives for reasons and seasons. Maybe we are all smart enough to use multiple parts of our brains and separate the business side of a person from the pleasure side of a person. Even though he may have been a friend with benefits, maybe he has a greater purpose to play in your life later on. Maybe you shouldnt foreclose those opportunities.

Despite the true answer, i think its important to set clear boundaries if you are now trying to do business or build a friendship with someone you used to "mess" with. Maybe you need to disappear for a while. End the creeping, disappear, and come back more professional than ever. Maybe he or she will see you in a new light. Communication is also key. Talk about your new relationship and how the days of old are gone. When in doubt, never go down that road with someone with whom you hope to establish a more lasting connection with. The chances that he'll take you seriously after smackin' your behind in a love making session is slim to none.