Lesson Learned: From sexy splack to super serious

I'd like to pose a question to the masses. Can you move from just having no strings attached sex with someone to having a true and respectable friendship? Can a jump off turn into a client, business partner, confidant, and friend?

Part of me thinks no. That once you've given yourself to a person sexually without demanding any more in return that at least for a woman, the man will never truly respect you and place you on the pedestal on which you should be. He'll always see you as his "splack" despite your intelligence, drive, and capacity for true friendship.

On the other hand, we are all adults. People come into our lives for reasons and seasons. Maybe we are all smart enough to use multiple parts of our brains and separate the business side of a person from the pleasure side of a person. Even though he may have been a friend with benefits, maybe he has a greater purpose to play in your life later on. Maybe you shouldnt foreclose those opportunities.

Despite the true answer, i think its important to set clear boundaries if you are now trying to do business or build a friendship with someone you used to "mess" with. Maybe you need to disappear for a while. End the creeping, disappear, and come back more professional than ever. Maybe he or she will see you in a new light. Communication is also key. Talk about your new relationship and how the days of old are gone. When in doubt, never go down that road with someone with whom you hope to establish a more lasting connection with. The chances that he'll take you seriously after smackin' your behind in a love making session is slim to none.

When I said the smart get the hell out of dodge during weekends like this in ATL, I wasnt playing....travelling for the weekend, posts will resume as normal on Monday (unless I find steady internet access here before then)

Notable and Quotable

"Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?"
-Abraham Lincoln

Featured Articles: Spoofem

Sandra Rose first reported about a new device that allows you to not only mask your number when calling someone but to show a different number. Do you think your ex is still communicating with his ex, well get her number and make it show up on his id when you call...see if he answers with a sound of confusion or will a sound of comfort...interesting.

www.spoofem.com

ATL Celebrilove: Bonnie and Clyde Edition

Clyde held his Bday party in the ATL last night w/ other September babies Weezy and Jeezy. Here's a pic of the "3 the hard way" crew and Bonnie. I wonder what the heck she's thinking...

Upcoming Events/Lesson Learned: Atlanta Football Classic

We all know that this weekend Fam U takes on TSU right here in the ATL. In the midst of all the pigskin, step shows, job fairs, health screenings and parades, there will be an influx of college aged boppers and wanna be show stoppers infiltrating our streets and parties. Be safe out there. Remember that real estate agents come a dime a dozen around here, video hoeing is not modeling, and just because he says he plays football, he doesnt' necessarily mean the NFL. Don't get duped ladies and gentlemen. The good is that maybe there really will be 100 black men in Atlanta this weekend. The bad is that weekends like this tend to bring out all the fake and phony that Atlanta has to offer. If you're smart you'll hit up a few lounges but will leave Esso and Compound to those people who are yet to have a mortgage and a car in their name. If you're smarter...well, you're getting the hell out of dodge.

Enjoy!

ATL Celebrilove: Home of the Braves

Check out Braves player Andruw Jones, his wife and son and their Duluth home in this recent AJC article:

http://www.ajc.com/business/content/business/private/stories/2007/09/26/pqajones2_0930.html?cxntlid=homepage_tab_newstab

Notable and Quotable

"A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one human soul whom we can trust utterly, who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of all our faults. "
-Charles Kingsley

Notable and Quotable

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage."
-Anais Nin

Please Read!!!!! Missing Chicago Woman

Although this blog is dedicated to love and relationships in Atlanta, sometimes national emergencies are far more important. Please spread the word and most importantly pray for this sister in Chicago.

True Story: Chivalry's Not Dead--Puzzling Proposal and Mi Kidney Es Su Kidney

ATL Men, here's a neat proposal idea:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070924/ap_on_fe_st/odd_crossword_proposal

and talk about true love and compatibility at its finest...
http://www.ajc.com/living/content/living/stories/2007/09/24/real_0926.html

Notable and Quotable

With Atlanta's Murder Rate being up by 22% the notable and quotable for today is simple, make love, not war!

Lesson Learned: Family Ties

In the intensity of getting to know a significant other we often neglect getting to know their families. This is a huge mistake. The family that raised, taught, and nurtured your beau is so important to who he/she is and who he/she will be with you. Not only does taking an interest in your signif other's family show him or her that you truly are interested in loving them on a deeper level, but it allows you to learn more about why he does what he does, acts how he acts, and says what he says.

Ever wondered why your girlfriend never says the words I love you but acts like she does? Maybe her dad never told her, but chose to show her in other ways. Does it bother you that your boyfriend doesn't hug and isn't all that affectionate? Maybe he and his mom have that same kind of "hands off" but loving relationship. Just because you and your family do things one way doesn't mean that another family's way of doing things is wrong. Spending time with the family will both teach and strengthen. Its not about making a good impression (although that's a plus) its about making an informed decision.

There's nothing better than loving every part of your man, his mother included. So whether its for Christmas, or just for Sunday football, head on out to see the fam...you won't regret it. . . (besides, if your boo won't introduce you to the fam, well, you've got other problems on your hands)!

Notable and Quotable

"I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love."
-Henry Ward Beecher

ATL Celebrilove: Gabby and Luda?!?!

The blogosphere has been reporting for weeks now that Gabrielle Union and Ludacris are an item. They have been spotted all around the US recently getting quite cozy. The daily dish is now reporting:

A Beautiful Union for Ludacris?
Sexy actress Gabrielle Union has a new hip-hop honey in the shape of birthday boy Ludacris.
The rapper, who recently turned 30, and the "Bad Boys II" star have been dating for the last two months, according to friends.
The new romance is Union's first serious fling since she split from husband Chris Howard in 2005.
Union, 34, was the rapper's special guest at his recent birthday party, which he held at Cafe Martorano at the Rio hotel in Las Vegas on September 7.
A source who attended the exclusive party tells In Touch Weekly magazine, "They were openly affectionate."

They could be a cute couple. That is if she stays outta the streets just a tad. I think Im still a fan of Luda's baby mama who is a self supporting Attorney. Here they are even pictured with his mom (pre braid cut off)